Since You Need A Green Light

Truth is subjective. If there is one word of advice I would leave to my children it would be, you’re better off being DIFFERENT. If the majority of people are doing something and you choose to be a part of it then you’re probably on a fast track to self-destruction. In my quarter century of time on this earth, I’ve had the opportunity to observe disturbing changes in the mentality of the people. Should I cast blame on the media? Obama? Conspiracy theories? No, I blame you.

One of these disturbing changes I mentioned is the fact that my fellow oxygen users allow themselves to be fooled so easily. It’s almost as if no one can think on their own anymore. We let trends dictate how we dress, talk and interact. Where I’m from, in the 90’s you couldn’t be caught dead with tight pants (unless you were Caucasian). Now, a couple of rap artist wear “skinny jeans” and it’s okay? Now I’m not saying that there’s anything wrong with wearing fitted clothing, but does media have to give you a green light for everything? Live your life for you.

Have you ever asked yourself, who defines your perspective of “cool?” When you see a commercial on TV advertising some new shoes that aren’t economically friendly, are you interested in the actual design of the shoe or are you more concerned about how you are perceived wearing an expensive brand? It’s just like buying art. People are more than likely to buy a piece of artwork from a well-known artist (even if it’s a picture of rocks being kicked) v.s. the intricate masterpiece of a no named Joe Blow Six-pack. That mentality is poison and you’ll never be at peace within yourself.

Currently, we seek that peace in the wrong places. Did you know that it’s human nature to desire to be a part of something? The sooner you understand that, the faster you can combat it. Do you really want to be out all night drinking with the guys/girls? Who celebrates turning 33 with shots? Is that the only common interest for your circle of friends? You think it makes you cool in their eyes because you’re always “down for whatever?” Now if partying all night floats your boat then by all means have at it. That’s just one example of a situation people put themselves in seeking a social life. Choose to be a part of something positive. Constantly seek to better yourself and your circle.

Life can be discouraging at times. We subconsciously corner our souls until the point where we have to escape by any means necessary. Even to the point of doing things we wouldn’t normally do. Reaching the bottom of a 750ml bottle of Cîroc® could be emotional survival. Same goes for participating in prostitution, drugs and other escapes we’ve created. At times, your reality is your escape. As I stated before, the truth is subjective. Look at all the different religions in the world. In every religion, its followers believe their religion to be solely true. Are you subconsciously a member of a church/organization not knowing it’s really just your desire to be a part of something? It’s past time to wake up from your slumber.

Sometimes we lose focus on the vital things in life and we fall victim to another one of our human nature attributes, the desire to be “desired.” This can cause you to commit yourself to dead end relationships/marriages. It can also destroy what once was a beautiful relationship/marriage. Show your partner an appropriate amount of attention before someone else does. Now outside of human nature, when did it become cool to be a heart-breaker? To deceive people for your own selfish agenda. This goes for both sexes. Guys take care of our women. They’re fragile. Tricks, “go-dig” yourself a career.

Women, one of the biggest issues with today’s time is the lack of self-respect. I love me a good twerking video, but it has to stop. What kind of future do you expect to have with a twerk video online? Imagine you’re trying to land your dream job, they search your name on YouTube and a twerk video comes up. You’ll probably be hired, but for the wrong reason. The most attractive woman in the world is “classy in the streets, and a freak in the sheets.” How can you expect respect from someone else if you don’t respect yourself? Have a standard. For yourself and others around you.

Find your happiness. Not the temporary gratification from substance-less things. The highlight of your day should not be watching “Real Housewives of ___.” Take a break from consulting your many Facebook psychologists. Think on your own for a change. Evaluate your current status and plan for where you want to be. Change your surroundings. Everyone doesn’t have your best interest at heart. Don’t be control or consumed by the media. Form your own opinion based off of your observations. All cops aren’t bad. Every black man sagging his pants isn’t trying to rob your local convenience store. Every conspiracy theory you hear isn’t accurate. Every conspiracy theory you hear isn’t inaccurate. Find your truth, and live it.

Handbags and Women Go Hand in Hand, But, Why?

As a man struggling to float in a sea of adept swimming females, I’ve been on the verge of sinking, especially in coming to grips with why women always carry around handbags. I have not once met a woman out and about without a handbag, ever. And there has to be some reason behind this, one would assume, right?

So, I inquired to myself what it is exactly that allures ladies to these bags they commonly tote around.

There are obvious differences between men and women, clearly. As men, we pocket a wallet, and on occasion will carry a shoulder bag, depending on our destination. Yet, women will always carry around a hand bag or purse, no matter where they’re off to.

But, why the difference? What factor separates us as men and women in our carrying needs?

It’s A Matter of Bagology…erm, I mean, Biology:

Through some research, I discovered that women are instinctively driven to be carriers and providers. Females actually need to carry something to hold possessions as it was and still is a fundamental need rooted in biological and physiological makeup.

By nature, women are caregivers. And in a familial environment, women’s roles have naturally evolved toward ensuring everyone with whatever they need. Throughout history women were responsible for raising children, which required readily available items for their children usually held within some sort of ‘bag.’ Consequently, the need to carry handbags full of items she or her loved ones might require has been instituted a long time ago and is currently the norm.

Hey, What Do You Have In That Bag?:

Women, a side from being nurturing and accommodating to loved ones, are quite mysterious in their ways, as are the contents of their handbags. To possess a hand bag is to be hush-hush, but it’s also a bit enticing. The fact that items in a handbag are concealed is captivating to men and other onlookers. As silly as this may seem, it’s all too true; men are often intrigued by what is in a woman’s handbag.

And it can be safe to assume that based on the contents of a woman’s handbag, one can get an idea of a woman’s personality, no matter how bizarre or random her belongings are. A handbag is the key to a woman’s real self.

Fashionably and Socially Yours:

Mysterious or not, women and handbags go hand in hand. The most discernible reason women are ‘bag-ladies’ is due to an appreciation of fashion. Let’s face it, women are fashionable and they enjoy looking snazzy. As women are well aware, to tote around a handbag is to accent an outfit. And women love to accessorize their wardrobes, especially with just that right purse or handbag.

But, even beyond just fashion and sporting a cute purse, handbags have become a way to socially rank your self as a woman. The quality, worth and style of a woman’s handbag is directly related to their status in society in terms of their income.

Sink to Swim:

I’ve come to understand why women are attracted to handbags. Women are naturally inclined to be nurturers, carriers and providers. Hence, they’ve become accustomed to using and carrying handbags. Whether or not they’re mystifying men and other onlookers blatantly or inadvertently with what they’re toting, women are unquestionably prepared.

Ready for anything through the mere contents of their handbags, two things are clear: women have certainly become excellent at confusing their opposite sex and to understand women’s handbagging ways as men, you’ve got to first sink to swim.